PERILAKU OVERPROTEKTIF ORANG TUA DAN PENYESUAIAN DIRI REMAJA: STUDI KUALITATIF DALAM PERSPEKTIF HUKUM KEEMPAT DEKALOG
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https://doi.org/10.63037/ivl.v9i2.197Keywords:
Overprotective Parenting, Adolescent Adjustment, Fourth CommandmentAbstract
Adolescent adjustment is a critical aspect of psychosocial development that is strongly influenced by parenting practices. One parenting style that may hinder this developmental process is overprotective parenting, which restricts adolescents' opportunities to develop independence and autonomy. This study aims to explore students' experiences of parental overprotective behavior, examine its implications for adolescent adjustment, and interpret these experiences from the perspective of the Fourth Commandment. A qualitative case study design was employed involving students of SMA Negeri 1 Nubatukan, NTT. Data were collected through in-depth interviews, observations, and document analysis and were analyzed thematically using source and method triangulation to enhance the credibility of the findings. The analysis identified five major themes: excessive parental control, limited opportunities for developing independence, increased anxiety and low self-confidence, difficulties in social adjustment, and the importance of religious values in fostering balanced family relationships. The findings indicate that excessive parental protection, although motivated by parental care and concern, may impede adolescents' autonomy and adjustment. From the perspective of the Fourth Commandment, the parent–child relationship is understood as a moral responsibility that requires a balance between honoring parents, providing loving guidance, and allowing adolescents sufficient freedom to mature into responsible and independent individuals.
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